Perhaps this was a lesson I just didn’t learn well enough in kindergarten, but I find myself struggling now with the same concept..all these years later. So let my lessons guide you
- accept that decisions made by others that you have no control over, may dictate that you will not get your way
- don’t stew and become angry, adults should be beyond temper tantrums
- stop distressing/ boring those around you with your verbosity on the subject
- take action that indicates that you’ve accepted reality- it will come
- acceptance will diminish the suffering
- take a vow to move onward in a skillful way
- act normal- practice makes perfect
- Apparently, you just might find, you get what you need
I realize that on many days, your heart will still hold out, hoping for that miracle that will change the truth (because miracles DO happen you figure). But this only assures your suffering by clinging to hope. Then you become angry and frustrated all over again. Kind of like a hamster on his wheel..
